Saturday, February 09, 2013

Twenty three years ago...


Twenty three years ago today, we stood facing one another in the covered pavilion at a local park on the river, as it was raining torrentially, and our plans to be wed on a pier overlooking the river were dashed.  The day before was clear, as was the day after, but that day, February 9, 1990, was drenched and gray.  The officiant who gave us our vows told us, "You know, it's actually good luck to be married on a rainy day."  As he smiled, I wondered if he decided that bit of information would be a good self fulfilling prophecy for us to embrace as we began our lives together.  

Much has transpired in these 23 years together.  We've weathered many storms since then, the largest of which, was realizing our dream of the "perfect family" with two kids was not to be.   We grieved the loss of a "normal family" life, until we finally realized that it really does not exist.  We incorporated what life had given us as our "normal" and went about the task of living.  It has not been easy by any means, but after all these years, what I do know is that we became stronger and stronger friends.  For only we know the truth of the struggles, and the fact that we share those makes the burden divided.  We smile when things don't go the way we planned, as well, they just sometimes don't.  We lean on one another, and we know that we can survive anything.

The doorbell rang this morning and when I opened it, there stood a delivery man with this lovely arrangement for me.  A token of love, of appreciation, and of a deep and abiding friendship with the man I said "I do" to all those years ago.  

13 comments:

Robin said...

Jayne, congratulations to you both! Here's to another 23 and beyond!

Ginger said...

Happy anniversary, you two! Blessings for the 24th year...and beyond!

Carolina Linthead said...

Tears in my eyes...happy tears...understanding tears. I, too, know the joy of a deep and abiding friendship with my spouse, the shared burden, the love, that makes life bearable. Love you so much, my friend, like a sister I hope to meet someday...well, not quite like a sister ;-)

Ruth's Photo Blog said...

Beautiful flowers for a celebration of your love for each other.Wishing you many more years together.

Diane said...

A beautiful bouquet. Best wishes to you both for the future and happy day. Diane

ROBERTA said...

Happy anniversary dear Jayne

KGMom said...

Yes, congrats. February is an unusual month in which to get married...according to traditional marriage months. And a winter wedding has its own hazards--we got married in December...in a snow storm! Wiped out half our invitees.
For different reasons, like you, we have had our share of challenges. But we are together still (and happily so) after 45 years.
So, here's to you and your DH, and here's to many more years. And here's to "normalcy."

NCmountainwoman said...

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! I will toast to you this very evening.

Beth said...

What a lovely bouquet! And Happy Anniversary to both of you. Here's to many more years together---it is indeed a blessing to be married to your best friend.

The Bug said...

Being good friends is what it's all about isn't it? Congratulations!

troutbirder said...

Happy anniversary, Jayne. The downs can become ups and you've faced them well. Our experience included the loss of our eldest sone to the effect (depression) of bi-polar. Many marriages faulter on this rock but we vowed to carry on and be stronger....

altar ego said...

The blessing of not being "normal" is that life is so much richer. Its layers have more texture, color, and emotional depth. In the end, it's so much better for us and the lives of those with whom we connect. I'm ever-so-grateful that ours connected.

Brielle Franklin said...

Those are such beautiful flowers! Congrats on the anniversary! I am hoping for a lovely marriage as well. So far the planning has been crazy and getting the information to become ordained has been fun to try and find for my cousin. I am just going nuts. But anyway, thanks so much for sharing your post! Happy Anniversary!