
When I knew I was ready to start my faith journey in 1993, I started exploring the Episcopal Church and found a home there. The church where I was subsequently baptized and confirmed was truly "home" to me. I was there for 12 years, and always knew it would be an important part of my life. If someone had told me one day I'd leave, I would have laughed. For it was in that place that I truly felt the presence of the spirit. The space simply always bathed me in its reverence and peace. But, as they say, never say never. In September of 2005, I walked out, and never went back.
My frustration centered around the priest, who was suffering from clinical depression, and ceased to be functional. He slowly sucked the church down into the vortex of his neglect and they seemed powerless to do anything about it. I liked him, and initially supported him, but when it reached critical mass, he was unable to admit his illness and the church began to crumble. So many people departed, and the spirits of those remaining was broken as well. It was as if those who had been there for years and years were just willing to wait him out. They'd been through many rectors in their 40+ year history, but even they were stymied in deciding how to carry on. Once his neglect personally affected me, and I could no longer be spiritually fed by him, I knew I had to leave or my spiritual life would be affected more than it already had been. So I retreated. I walked away, much to the dismay of those I left behind. I was hurt, I was angry, and I was determined to land in a healthier place. I did not go to church for a couple of months, and then landed at a newer church in an outlying community 45 minutes from me. The people were kind, and it was a sanctuary from the chaos. But, it was not "home." I was able to adjust to those things that I knew in my heart I was missing, and tried to make do.
This past summer, imagine my surprise, when our choir director announced we'd be doing the Advent Bach Cantata along with the choir of my former church. I was both excited and hesitant. As irony would have it, this past fall, they were able through financial means, to get the depressed priest to leave. The day I walked back into that church to practice with their choir
members, and then sing the cantata there, I was greeted with open arms and many hugs. It truly felt as if I'd never left.
All this has weighed heavily on me since December. So many people looked at me longingly after hugging me in December as if wanting to voice, "So, he's gone. Will you come back now?" Over the past weeks, I've given much thought to attending a service there to see how it felt, and yesterday, I decided to do it. I walked back in there to worship after 2 1/2 years of painful absence, after all the sadness and hurt, and yet longing to go home again. I can't count the knowing smiles and welcoming hugs I received. I cried as I knelt there in prayer, thinking about how brave they all were for staying in the midst of the years of chaos when I ran for shelter. I cried because for the first time in a long time, I felt fed. Back home, full of warmth, and spiritually fed. Maybe, just maybe, you can go home again.